It’s hard, there’s no doubt about it – making change stick is something that we sometimes succeed at, and we often fail at. At Outside The Lines, we know it takes more than hard work, commitment and a true desire to make changes, it doesn’t matter if they are big or small! That’s why we’ve done the research and put together a range of strategies to help our participants sustain the changes they want to make in their lives, whatever they might be.
We approach change from our physiology first. Understanding what is going on in our complex brain when we are trying to make a change is the first step to knowing what will help or hinder our efforts to sustain change. The research around neuroscience in recent years has illuminated just how complex our brain is when it comes to changing how we think and how we view the world. The most exciting discovery is that we can change how we are wired! Neuroplasticity is the process in which your brain’s neural synapses and pathways are altered as an effect of environmental, behavioural, emotional and neural changes.
We also understand that as much as we might want to make a change, sometimes there is something else that is competing with this goal that is more important, we call these competing goals. An example might be: “I want to lose weight, but I am a “foodie” and love to dine out”. Underlying this is a belief that I won’t be social or be able to connect with people if I don’t dine out with my friends. And this belief over rules my goal of losing weight. We work through a process that looks at the things/thoughts/beliefs/behaviours that are getting in your way of making change stick. We draw on the work of Kegan and Lahey and their “Immunity to Change” framework to help us identify what might be hindering your efforts.
We also look at mindset, do you really believe that change is possible? Making changes involves taking risks, and there is a risk that you might not succeed. If your Fixed Mindset is telling you that you are “someone” when you succeed, then the fear of potentially failing can really challenge how we see ourselves, and this alone can be enough to make us unwilling to take the risk associated with change. Whereas a Growth Mindset approach to change will mean that we will see failure as opportunity to learn and grow and we won’t define ourselves by success or failure, we’ll be more focused on stretching our knowledge.
Join us on LEAP to further explore how you can set goals and achieve the change you desire.